Your Wedding

06 Mar 07

Welcome

Congratulations! You have decided to become husband and wife and wish to be married in St Laurence Church, Ansley.

Welcome to our church. We want everything to be perfect for you as you begin your married life together. We will do everything we can to ensure that your Marriage Service will be a time to remember with joy for the rest of your lives.

We hope this booklet will tell you all you need to know about getting married at St Laurence Church, but if you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact the Churchwarden by following the link on this website  

Contents

Introductory Words

1) Planning

  • Banns
  • Service Sheets
  • The Marriage Service
  • The Vows
  • Readings
  • Hymns
  • Music Flowers
  • Church Annexe facilities
  • Photographs
  • Video Bells

2) Marriage Preparation

3) The Final Week

4) On the Day

5) After Marriage

6) Contacts

7) Suggested Hymns

8) Suggested Bible Readings

9) Closing Prayer

 

Introductory Words

Your wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good wishes, feasting and joy. St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana, and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine.

 

Marriage is intended by God to be a creative relationship, as his blessing enables husband and wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad, and to share in the care and upbringing of children. For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in the spirit of Jesus Christ. It is based upon a solemn, public and life-long covenant between a man and a woman, declared and celebrated in the presence of God and before witnesses.

On your wedding day the bride and bridegroom face each other, make their promises and receive God’s blessing.

 

1) Planning

* (Whilst at the moment we are without a vicar  don't worry appropriate cover will be found for your wedding and you will be given the contact details of the person that will lead your service) 

Banns

It is a legal requirement that your intention to marry be announced publicly (banns). This is arranged by the Vicar and is normally carried out during the services on three consecutive Sundays prior to your wedding and within three months of the date. The Vicar will tell you when this will occur. If possible, please be present in church when your banns are called.

 

If either of you are not resident in Ansley you must also have your banns read in your local church. Please contact the Vicar of that church who will arrange it for you. There will be a fee charged for this. After the banns have been read at your local church, the Vicar there will provide you with a certificate which should be handed to the Vicar taking the service no later than the Wedding Rehearsal. This certificate is essential as you cannot get married without it!

 

If neither of you live in Ansley or have a qualifying connection (ask for details) you should attend Ansley church regularly so that you can get your names on the Church Electoral Roll in order to be married at St Laurence.

 

Service Sheets

If you wish to have your own service sheet, please ensure that the Vicar is aware of this at an early stage.

The sheet may simply contain an order for the hymns, readings and prayers, but may also contain the words of the Marriage Ceremony itself (see next page). It is a good idea to let the Vicar check over the proof of the service sheet before you get it printed. On your wedding day, please make sure the sheets arrive at church early enough for the ushers to distribute them when your guests arrive.

 

The Marriage Service

If you wish to have the complete marriage service on your service sheets, it can be obtained via the internet on the Church of England website at: http://www.cofe.anglican.org/worship/liturgy/commonworship/texts

 

Scroll down the page and click on marriage under “Pastoral Services”.

On the new page, click on “The Marriage Service”.

You can now use “Cut and Paste” to create a document, editing it to insert your own name’s where indicated.

The basic order of service is:

  • The Procession
  • The Welcome
  • Preface
  • The Declaration
  • The Collect
  • The Sermon
  • The Vows
  • The Giving of Rings
  • The Proclamations
  • Registration of the Marriage
  • Prayers
  • Blessing
  • The Recession

The Vows

We encourage you to memorise your wedding vows. It sounds so much better then repeating them after the Vicar. The vows are as follows:

The bridegroom takes the bride’s right hand in his, and says:

 

I,N, take you, N, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer,for poorer in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; accordin to God's holy law. In the presence of God I make this vow.

 

The bride takes the bridegroom’s right hand in hers, and says:

I, N, take you, N, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better,; for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part; according to God holy law. In the presence of God l make this vow.

 

Readings

You will need at least one Bible reading. If you wish, you may also choose a second reading from the Bible or elsewhere (e.g. a poem). You may even wish to write something yourselves to say to each other during the service.

A list of suggested Bible readings can be found on paragraph 8 below).

You may use your friends and/or family to do the readings and/or prayers if you so choose, thereby involving your guests in the service as much as possible.

 

Finding Ansley Church

You may wish to mention in your invitations the location of St. Laurence Church, as it is not in either Ansley Village or Ansley Common. It is located in Church End, at the junction of the B4114 and the B4112. The post code for your ‘sat nav’ is CV10 0QR.

 

We would also ask that guests park in the car park or where directed and do not block the lane as large commercial vehicles use the lane on a regular basis.

 

Hymns

When choosing the hymns, try to choose appropriate ones that everyone will know. We recommend that the first hymn is lively and well known. The second hymn should be quieter. You may choose two, three, or four hymns, but three is generally preferred. A list of suggested hymns can be found on paragraph 7 below).

 

Music

 It is vital that you contact our organist to talk over your requirements at least one month before your wedding. The easiest way is to meet her after our 6.30pm Sunday evening service but if this is not possible the vicar can provide her telephone number on request. You are also welcome to arrange for your own organist, or even have a music group, but the organ fee is still payable. We also have facilities for playing CDs.

 

Flowers

Whatever your wishes regarding flowers please contact the Church Warden as soon as possible - at the very latest a month before your wedding - to discuss your requirements. Altar vases and pedestals are available but regrettably we are unable to arrange the flowers for you.

Please make sure your flower arranger:

·         Uses the two brass vases already on the altar,

·         There is an arrangement on the small table at the crossing of the aisles near the main door.

·         Arrangements in the porch.

Any additional flowers are at your own discretion.

After the service please leave the flowers on the altar, on the small table and in the porch, but arrange to have all other flowers removed by the following Thursday.

If you wish to put flowers or ribbons on the pew ends You MUST NOT use pins, sticky tape or other adhesives as these damage the oak pews. We should be very pleased to provide clips for your arrangements which work very well. It would be greatly appreciated if you could ask a friend or your florist to remove these decorations after your guests have left the church.

 

Church Annexe Facilities

The toilet/baby change in the annexe will be available at all times during your wedding. In addition, the annexe room is available for hire both before and after the service. 

 

Photographs

In order not to disrupt the flow of the service by unnecessary movement or by an untimely flash going off, it is requested that no photographs are taken during the ceremony. Photographs can be taken before the service, during the signing of the registers, and at the final procession.

If the weather is wet, additional time will be made available for extra photographs to be taken inside the church.

Please ensure your photographer and guests knows that there is to be NO CONFETTI in the the churchyard.

If another wedding is planned for the same day, please try to arrange for all photographs to be taken and the car park cleared at least 90 minutes after the start of the service.

 

Video

If you wish to have a video made of the Marriage Service, this is perfectly acceptable. The church holds a copyright licence to enable you to film the hymns and any other music. However, this does not give you licence to edit or dub the film. If you wish to do this, you are responsible for obtaining permissions.

 

Bells

If you wish to have the bells rung at the service, please book this early. The bells will normally be rung for 30 minutes following the service. Remember, however, that if the service starts late, the bell ringers will ring for a shorter time if they have other commitments.

 

2) Marriage Preparation

You will first have an interview with the Vicar where you can ask any questions you may have. It is also a good time to begin to think about the prayers, readings, hymns and other music you want as the Vicar can help you choose.

The next thing is another interview with the Vicar where final arrangements can be tidied up, and details of the rehearsal arranged. This would be a good time to show the Vicar a proof copy of your service sheet, if you are having one.

 

3) The Final Week

Wedding Rehearsal

The final part of the preparation is the rehearsal - a very important process which is designed to make sure that everything runs smoothly on the day. This takes place in church, usually in the week running up to the wedding. It is helpful if the Best Man, bridesmaids and parents can be present for this, but they should arrive half an hour after the fixed time to allow the Vicar time alone with the couple.

If you have not already done so, please bring with you:

  • Certificate(s) of banns from another parish (if applicable)
  • Service Sheet (if you are having your own)
  • All fees

Time Together

Book now a few hours on your own together in the final week to enjoy each other’s company and not be disturbed.

 

4) On the Day

Arrivals

To avoid unnecessary rush and panic, the groom should arrive 20-30 minutes before the start of the service and the bride 5 minutes before the start.

 

Bridal Party

It is best for the bridal party to use the lych gate (the gate nearest the main road) to allow maximum use of the car park for guests. This is also a good setting for photographing the arrival and departure of the bridal party. Car Parking The car park is fairly small, so if you are expecting more than 50 cars we can arrange for a car park marshal so that all cars are parked neatly and everyone can get in. If you are expecting more than 70 cars, additional parking can be arranged for you free of charge. Please let the Vicar or Church Warden know if either a marshal or extra parking is required.

 

Confetti

To preserve its beauty, please ask your guests not to throw confetti in the churchyard. It is perfectly acceptable to throw confetti outside the lych gate, where it can be swept up later.

 

5) After Marriage

After your marriage it will be lovely to see you both again. You are most welcome to join us in our regular Sunday worship.

The services are at St Laurence’s Church End Ansley at l0.30am and 6.30pm and at St John’s Hall, Ansley Common at 10.30am.

Alternatively, you could try coming at the special times in the church calendar, e.g. Christmas, Easter, Harvest, Mothering Sunday, or to celebrate your own special anniversaries.

Please remember that the Vicar will always be available for help and advice.

 

6) Contacts

  • Vicar: - (please refer to * in section 1 )
  • Church Warden: - Margaret Antill 01827 874520
  • Organist: - Margaret Kimberley

7) Suggested Hymns

The list below is purely a guide - there are hundreds more hymns from which you can choose. It’s up to you to make the service as meaningful as possible for yourselves.

The hymn numbers stated can be found in The Anglican Hymn Book, and the hymn numbers in brackets in Mission Praise. (Where a - is used instead of a hymn number, the hymn is not available in that hymn book.)

  • (1) A new commandment
  • (16) All my hope on God is founded 233
  • (23) All things bright and beautiful 234
  • (34) Angel voices ever singing 214
  • (89) Come down, 0 love divine 579
  • (132) Father, hear the prayer we offer
  • (147) Fill your hearts with joy & gladness 18
  • (152) For the beauty of the earth 524
  • (331) In heavenly love abiding 583
  • (400) Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us
  • (882) Lord of all hopefulness 625
  • (449) Love divine, all loves excelling 21
  • (-) May the grace of Christ our Saviour 634
  • (463) May the mind of Christ my Saviour 22
  • (486) Now thank we all our God 393
  • (517) 0 perfect love 366
  • (525) 0 thou who camest from above 248
  • (528) 0 worship the King 247
  • (560) Praise, my soul, the King of heaven 246
  • (564) Praise to the Lord, the Almighty 546
  • (649) The King of love my shepherd is 511
  • (1008) The Lord’s my shepherd
  • (683) There’s a wideness in God’s mercy

8) Suggested Bible Readings

The list below is purely a guide.

  • Genesis Chapter 1: verses 26-2 8
  • Song of Solomon 2:10-13, 8:6-7
  • Jeremiah 31:31-34
  • Tobit 8:4-8
  • Matthew 5:1-10
  • Matthew 7:2 1, 24-end
  • Mark 10:1-10
  • John 2: 1-11
  • John 15:1-8
  • John 15:9-17
  • Romans 8:31-35, 37-39
  • Romans 12:1-2, 9-13
  • Romans 15:1-3, 5-7, 13
  • 1 Corinthians 13
  • Ephesians 3:14-end
  • Ephesians 4:1-6
  • Ephesians 5:21-end
  • Philippians 4:4-9
  • Colossians 3:12-17
  • 1 John 3:18-end
  • 1 John 4:7-12

9) Closing Prayer

All praise and blessing to you, God of love, creator of the universe, maker of man and woman in your likeness, source of blessing for married life. All praise to you, for you have created

  • Courtship and marriage
  • Joy and gladness
  • Feasting and laughter
  • Pleasure and delight.

May your blessing come in full upon us.

May we know your presence in our joys and in our sorrows.

May we reach old age in the company of friends and come at last to your eternal kingdom, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  

Amen.


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Peter Allan

As from 5th June 2016  Rev. Peter Allan has retired. However the life of the church will continue, although there may be a few changes.  If you want to contact the church please do so via the web link or email. Alternatively please telephone one of the church wardens Margaret Antill 01827 874520 or Moreen Freestone 024 7638 1833  one of the deputies Diana Kealey 024 7639 5089 or Margaret Oliver 024 7639 5674 all will be happy to help in any way they can.